The Comparison Game
Lately I have been STRUGGLING… and not in the most healthy way. I know I am not the only one and this is gonna get personal but that’s literally what I am all about so let’s dive in deep for a sec..
The last few weeks I have really been in my own head. About my work, about my business, about pretty much everything.
Am I doing enough? Why is that person booking and I’m not? Are my prices too high for the service I offer?
So lets start with the basics…
WHAT is this? WHY am I feeling this way? This my friend is called the Comparison Game. It’s easy to get sucked into and hard to change your mindset out of.
Comparison is the thief of joy.
– Theodore Roosevelt
So you’re probably wondering – how did you get here? For me it was something as small as watching my other photographer friends book sessions and I knew I wasn’t. It wasn’t because I wasn’t happy for them but I was jealous and so the downward spiral began…
And lets be 100% CLEAR – I am SO THRILLED for my other photographer friends for kicking ass and taking names. Seriously, do not read this blog and think otherwise. I just feel a type of way and now I’m blogging it to whatever following I have to possibly shed some light and be somewhat helpful within this specific subject.
So you’ve probably felt all of these things I’ve mentioned already and if not – YOU ARE ONE OF THE LUCKY ONES BABES. But if you have been here and know exactly what I am talking about here are some tips that I have found that help me to avoid the spiral…
THREE WAYS TO AVOID COMPARISON
- ONE || Focus on yourself and your own business!!! I cannot stress this enough. Stop watching your friends and watch YOU. I would recommend ‘muting’ everyone that seems to trigger you. If you go to your friends IG/FB and the first words out of your mouth or in your head is “wow – why I am not doing that? I wish I was on that level.” THEN MUTE. Don’t feel bad about it either. Mental Health is so so important especially us business owners.
- TWO || Be KIND to yourself! You are literally doing your very best and that is ENOUGH. Believing you are doing enough takes the emotional weight off of your shoulders thinking you aren’t doing enough. I promise you are.
- THREE || TAKE A BREAK!!! Seriously, take a social media detox and delete the apps. Take the day off to just wallow in it for the day and then come back the next day with a better mindset.
I really hope some of these tips helps someone one day. Being a business owner is HARD and not for the weak. So, shoutout to all my boss men and woman out there. Keep growing and never stop reaching for the sky.
Love you all the most.
XOXO Hannah
